In order to understand the significance of our lives, and to develop a positive line of action, we must first be prepared to see life for what it is, not through some lens or prism that distorts the reality to conform to our wishes or pre-formed ideas about it. While we like to focus on what is pleasant and uplifting, we must be prepared at the same time to acknowledge and confront what is unpleasant and distasteful.
Humanity has tried many different ways to have just the “positive” without the negative. We create our Gods to be all powerful, all knowing, but at the same time, we do not like to attribute to them the destructive power. We want to blame the devil, or even weak humanity, for what goes wrong in the world.
Sri Aurobindo describes it this way: “We erect a God of Love and Mercy, a God of Good, a God just, righteous and virtuous according to our own moral conceptions of justice, virtue and righteousness, and all the rest, we say is not He or is not His, but was made by some diabolical Power which He suffered for some reason to work out its wicked will or by some dark Ahriman counterbalancing our gracious Ormuzd, or was even the fault of selfish and sinful man who has spoiled what was made originally perfect by God. As if man had created the law of death and devouring in the animal world or that tremendous process by which Nature creates indeed and preserves but in the same step and by the same inextricable action slays and destroys.”
We must be able to embrace both sides in order to see the Truth. “…to lift up the image of the Force that acts in the world in the figure not only of beneficent Durga, but of the terrible Kali in her blood-stained dance of destruction and to say, “This too is the Mother; this also know to be God; this too, if thou hat the strength, adore.”
“For truth is the foundation of real spirituality and courage is its soul.”
Sri Aurobindo, Essays on the Gita, First Series, Chapter 5, Kurukshetra, pp. 41-42,